Are You Willing To Do Whatever It Takes To Connect?

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Are You Willing To Do Whatever It Takes to Connect

Earlier today, I was listening to “Everyone Communicates, Few Connect,” by John Maxwell.  In this particular lesson, John was teaching that connecting with people is not outside of your reach.  It may be outside of your comfort zone, but not outside of your power.  He then said something that caused me to reevaluate my thoughts and opinions regarding a personal challenging situation.  John said, “It’s within your power to connect. The question is, are you willing to?”  In that moment, the message of ASPIRE TO GREATNESS began to speak to me.  I could hear her saying, “Rosalynd, this is an opportunity for you to walk in your greatness and to live, do, be, think and lead on a higher level. Additionally, it’s an opportunity for growth and learning and to extend love and compassion.”

In that moment, I knew what I had to do. Hurry and read the rest of the post 🙂

Aspire To Change Your Story!

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Aspire to Change Your Story“I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found that suffering is optional. I found a joy within me that has never disappeared, not for a single moment. That joy is in everyone, always.” ~  Byron Katie

Our story is a reflection of the thoughts and beliefs we have about who we are, what we can attain,  what we can accomplish and what we’re worthy of receiving.  Who would you be without your story?  You know, the story you tell yourself everyday about who you think you are.  The story of your worth and value. The story of the many things you have experienced, that you wish you could change.  The story about why the person you loved left you.  The heart wrenching story you replay over and over in your mind of the betrayal and rejection you experienced, by those you loved the most. Reliving the childhood story that you’ll never be good enough.

The negative story we tell ourselves, tends to….

  • depress us…rather than elevate us.
  • anger us…rather than calm us.
  • breed chaos in our lives…rather than harmony.
  • bring about confusion…rather than mental clarity.
  • drain us…rather than energize us.
  • attract the things we don’t want…rather than the things we desire.
  • drive people away…rather than deepen our relationships.

I want to invite you to change your story. Hurry and read the rest of the post 🙂

Aspire To Be A Person of Significance

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Aspire to be a person of significanceThere is a difference between success and significance.  Success is me doing the best I can for myself and reaping the rewards.  Significance is me living beyond myself for others. ~ John Maxwell

Every morning, Gabriella and I walk four blocks to await the school bus that picks her up at 8:00.   I enjoy watching her interact with the other children.  It’s a great opportunity to observe her personality and gifts at work in a group setting.  Already, I can see that my daughter has the gift of leadership.  She is very loving, a great communicator and connector.

Last week, I connected with a mother of two from Guyana.  Over the past week, I have enjoyed chatting with her about Guyana and the wonderful people I had met through my workshops, speaking and coaching opportunities.  I look forward to returning soon, to make a difference in the lives of the people, especially the young adults.

A few days ago, I asked her what she typically does when her children were at school.  She responded, “Nothing, I’m just home all day.”  I could hear the sadness in her voice and see in her eyes, the desire for something more.  So, I asked her, “How would you like to get together once a week for tea or coffee?”  You should have her heard the excitement in her voice.  I asked for her contact information and learned that she nor her husband had an email address, owned a computer or knew how to use one.

I immediately said to myself, “Rosalynd, here’s an opportunity for you to be of significance and add value to this family’s life.” Next, I heard John’s voice, “There is a difference between success and significance.  Success is me doing the best I can for myself and reaping the rewards.  Significance is me living beyond myself for others.” I asked her if she would allow me to give them the gift of computer training in my home, once a week for 2 hours.  She was so excited and grateful!  We determined that Sunday would be the best day.  I asked her to discuss it with her husband and confirm the time with me tomorrow. Hurry and read the rest of the post 🙂

A Moment of Transparency #5: Embracing The “Real” Truth

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Woman Meditating in FieldThe more I learn about myself and the more I learn about other people, I am convinced that as much as we say we want truth, we don’t really want it. Why? Because embracing the “real” truth is hard. Truth in its purest form will expose and reveal the things we want to keep hidden about ourselves. After all, we want to appear to the world and to ourselves as having it all together. This is an illusion, a deception that we have bought into; which prevents us from being real and authentic. No one, has it all together. Growth is a life-long process. For the past three years, I have been on an “intentional” journey of growth. On this journey, I have been discovering and accepting certain truths about who I really am. Some things I am happy and excited about, and the other things, I simply refer to as my “growth zones.” I’ll liken the experience to an excavation. The deeper you go, the more you uncover. Some things you keep because of their value, and the other things you discard. Hurry and read the rest of the post 🙂

Are You “Minding” Your Relationships?

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Are You Minding Your RelationshipsAs I was reading an article this morning on the benefits of mindfulness, I asked myself, “How mindful are you in nurturing your relationships?” Well, I must confess, there is room for improvement. Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; more specifically, on purpose. Mindfulness involves a conscious direction of your awareness.

How mindful are you about the health and strength of your relationships? Many of us place a high value on relationships, yet, we are not intentional in nurturing our relationships with our spouse, significant other, child, friends, family members, employees, colleagues, or business associates.

Is it possible, that you are taking your relationships for granted? Well, I will be the first to raise my hand and say “Guilty as charged!” Like many of you, I have a long list of competing priorities and distractions. Consequently, what I value most sometimes falls to the bottom of my list of “What’s most important?” Today, I declare that “I will begin “minding” my relationships on a higher level.Hurry and read the rest of the post 🙂

What’s Really Going On With You?

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What's Going On With YouAs a coach, confidante and friend, people will often share with me their feelings regarding the  challenges they are  facing in their personal, marital, parental and business relationships.  After carefully listening to them, I will often say, “Let’s explore what’s really going on with you.”  Recently, I had a similar conversation with myself, due to my emotional response to a challenge I am currently facing.  I asked myself, “Rosalynd, what’s really going on with you?  What is the root cause of your pain?”  As I pondered the questions, I wrote down every thought I could quickly capture.  After reviewing my thoughts, I realized that I needed to do some work on reprogramming my subconscious mind.  Consciously, I believed that I was a better place.  However, my emotional response conveyed otherwise.

It’s been scientifically proven that we’re only conscious 3-5% of the time. Many of our decisions and judgments are based on our subconscious programming, which is on auto pilot 95-97% of the times. In fact, many of our thoughts regarding an individual is not based on truth, but rather our programming about who we believe them to be. Have you ever been in a situation, where someone is judging you based on something they experienced with you 10, 5, or 2 years ago, and you are not the same person? Well, that’s the program playing in their mind. Hurry and read the rest of the post 🙂

I Am A Creator, Not A Competitor!

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I AM A CREATOR!“You must get rid of the thought of competition.
You are to create,
not to compete for what is already created.
You do not have to take anything away from any one.
You do not have to drive sharp bargains.
You do not have to cheat, or to take advantage.
You do not need to let any man work for you
for less than he earns.
You do not have to covet the property of others,
or to look at it with wishful eyes;
No man has anything, of which you cannot have the like,
And that without taking what he has away from him.
You are to become a creator, not a competitor;
you are going to get what you want,
but in such a way that when you get it
every other man will have more than he has now.” ~

Wallace D. Wattles “The Science of Getting Rich”

We live in a society that promotes unhealthy competitive practices and philosophies. Many would say this is our nature, I ask, “Is this true.” As a Christian, I believe that we were created by God. God is synonymous with limitless supply, abundance, and prosperity. Because I believe that God is our creator, and we were made in his image, than it would stand to reason that we have access to EVERYTHING we need. If we live from this principle, unhealthy competition would not exist. Rather than competing against one another, we would compete against ourselves to ensure that we are aspiring to live at our fullest potential. Hurry and read the rest of the post 🙂

A Moment of Transparency #4: You’re Not A Loner, You’re Just Afraid

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You're Not A Loner; You're Just Afraid“Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy solitude. It’s because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.” ~ Jodi Picoult

Upon reading this quote, I felt a feeling of uneasiness as I wrestled with the reality of these words.  Immediately, I was bombarded with the following questions: “Rosalynd, is this true for you?”  “Why did you assume this identity?”Did you develop the identity of a loner out of fear?” “What did you fear?”  From a place of awareness, my higher-self responded, “Yes, you chose to be a loner out of fear of rejection.”  I never thought about it, until I read this quote recently.

As far back as I can remember, I suffered rejection from those closest to me.  Consequently, there were several periods throughout my life where I felt lonely and/or alone.  I remember most of my life, shrinking in front of people (in various ways) just to fit in and make others feel comfortable.  Always at the risk of rejecting my true identity.  No wonder, I suffered a major identity crisis during my 20s and 30s.  For so many years, I felt like a fish out of water.  It wasn’t until my 30s, that I realized that I was swimming with the wrong fish.  Thankfully, I am now in a place where I have learned how to reframe my thoughts and feelings regarding rejection.  I have come to learn that people don’t reject me because of who I am, but rather, who they are.  Hence, my mantra in this season of my life isOther people’s opinions of me is not my business.”  More importantly, I have discovered who I am and why I am here.  This has made all the difference in the world in how I live my life and what I entertain. Hurry and read the rest of the post 🙂

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Aspire to Raise Your Leadership Lid!

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“Everything rises and falls on leadership.” ~ John Maxwell

John Maxwell says, “Your leadership is like a lid or ceiling on your organization. Your leadership ability is the lid that determines your level of effectiveness and potential.”  To increase your effectiveness and potential, you must raise your leadership lid.  Raising your leadership lid is especially important, if you have the responsibility of leading others; whether it’s your family, business, team, group, church or organization. 

Our families, communities, businesses and groups need us to lead higher!

In John Maxwell’s book, The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, he explains The Law of the Lid in this way:

Leadership ability is the lid that determines a person’s level of effectiveness.  The lower an individual’s ability to lead, the lower the lid on his potential.  The higher the individual’s ability to lead, the higher the lid on his potential.  To give you an example, if your leadership rates an 8, then your effectiveness can never be greater than a 7.  If your leadership is only a 4, then your effectiveness will be no higher than a 3.  Your leadership ability—for better or for worse—always determines your effectiveness and the potential impact of your organization.

The lower our leadership lid, the less influence we have in the lives of those we’re responsible for leading.  It’s important to understand that just because you are in a position of authority, it doesn’t mean that people are following you by choice.  They may simply be following you by default.

I would like you to take a moment to examine the level of growth in your life, career, business and relationships. 

How would you rate your level of effectiveness in leading in these areas?
Are you experiencing growth, failure or stagnation? 

Your success in these areas, will grow in proportion to your leadership lid! Hurry and read the rest of the post 🙂