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Aspire To Be A Person of Significance
“There is a difference between success and significance. Success is me doing the best I can for myself and reaping the rewards. Significance is me living beyond myself for others.” ~ John Maxwell
Every morning, Gabriella and I walk four blocks to await the school bus that picks her up at 8:00. I enjoy watching her interact with the other children. It’s a great opportunity to observe her personality and gifts at work in a group setting. Already, I can see that my daughter has the gift of leadership. She is very loving, a great communicator and connector.
Last week, I connected with a mother of two from Guyana. Over the past week, I have enjoyed chatting with her about Guyana and the wonderful people I had met through my workshops, speaking and coaching opportunities. I look forward to returning soon, to make a difference in the lives of the people, especially the young adults.
A few days ago, I asked her what she typically does when her children were at school. She responded, “Nothing, I’m just home all day.” I could hear the sadness in her voice and see in her eyes, the desire for something more. So, I asked her, “How would you like to get together once a week for tea or coffee?” You should have her heard the excitement in her voice. I asked for her contact information and learned that she nor her husband had an email address, owned a computer or knew how to use one.
I immediately said to myself, “Rosalynd, here’s an opportunity for you to be of significance and add value to this family’s life.” Next, I heard John’s voice, “There is a difference between success and significance. Success is me doing the best I can for myself and reaping the rewards. Significance is me living beyond myself for others.” I asked her if she would allow me to give them the gift of computer training in my home, once a week for 2 hours. She was so excited and grateful! We determined that Sunday would be the best day. I asked her to discuss it with her husband and confirm the time with me tomorrow. Hurry and read the rest of the post
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Embracing Your Real Truth3
The more I learn about myself and the more I learn about other people, I am convinced that as much as we say we want truth, we don’t really want it. Why? Because embracing the “real” truth is hard. Truth in its purest form will expose and reveal the things we want to keep hidden about ourselves. After all, we want to appear to the world and to ourselves as having it all together. This is an illusion, a deception that we have bought into; which prevents us from being real and authentic. No one, has it all together. Growth is a life-long process. For the past three years, I have been on an “intentional” journey of growth. On this journey, I have been discovering and accepting certain truths about who I really am. Some things I am happy and excited about, and the other things, I simply refer to as my “growth zones.” I’ll liken the experience to an excavation. The deeper you go, the more you uncover. Some things you keep because of their value, and the other things you discard. Hurry and read the rest of the post
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“Are You Minding Your Relationships” audio file
As I was reading an article this morning on the benefits of mindfulness, I asked myself, “How mindful are you in nurturing your relationships?” Well, I must confess, there is room for improvement. Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; more specifically, on purpose. Mindfulness involves a conscious direction of your awareness.
How mindful are you about the health and strength of your relationships? Many of us place a high value on relationships, yet, we are not intentional in nurturing our relationships with our spouse, significant other, child, friends, family members, employees, colleagues, or business associates.
Is it possible, that you are taking your relationships for granted? Well, I will be the first to raise my hand and say “Guilty as charged!” Like many of you, I have a long list of competing priorities and distractions. Consequently, what I value most sometimes falls to the bottom of my list of “What’s most important?” Today, I declare that “I will begin “minding” my relationships on a higher level.” Hurry and read the rest of the post
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What’s Going On With You?
As a coach, confidante and friend, people will often share with me their feelings regarding the challenges they are facing in their personal, marital, parental and business relationships. After carefully listening to them, I will often say, “Let’s explore what’s really going on with you.” Recently, I had a similar conversation with myself, due to my emotional response to a challenge I am currently facing. I asked myself, “Rosalynd, what’s really going on with you? What is the root cause of your pain?” As I pondered the questions, I wrote down every thought I could quickly capture. After reviewing my thoughts, I realized that I needed to do some work on reprogramming my subconscious mind. Consciously, I believed that I was a better place. However, my emotional response conveyed otherwise.
It’s been scientifically proven that we’re only conscious 3-5% of the time. Many of our decisions and judgments are based on our subconscious programming, which is on auto pilot 95-97% of the times. In fact, many of our thoughts regarding an individual is not based on truth, but rather our programming about who we believe them to be. Have you ever been in a situation, where someone is judging you based on something they experienced with you 10, 5, or 2 years ago, and you are not the same person? Well, that’s the program playing in their mind. Hurry and read the rest of the post
“You must get rid of the thought of competition.
You are to create,
not to compete for what is already created.
You do not have to take anything away from any one.
You do not have to drive sharp bargains.
You do not have to cheat, or to take advantage.
You do not need to let any man work for you
for less than he earns.
You do not have to covet the property of others,
or to look at it with wishful eyes;
No man has anything, of which you cannot have the like,
And that without taking what he has away from him.
You are to become a creator, not a competitor;
you are going to get what you want,
but in such a way that when you get it
every other man will have more than he has now.” ~
Wallace D. Wattles “The Science of Getting Rich”
We live in a society that promotes unhealthy competitive practices and philosophies. Many would say this is our nature, I ask, “Is this true.” As a Christian, I believe that we were created by God. God is synonymous with limitless supply, abundance, and prosperity. Because I believe that God is our creator, and we were made in his image, than it would stand to reason that we have access to EVERYTHING we need. If we live from this principle, unhealthy competition would not exist. Rather than competing against one another, we would compete against ourselves to ensure that we are aspiring to live at our fullest potential. Hurry and read the rest of the post
Happy 2014 My ASPIRING Friends!
A few days before the New Year, I began to reflect on my failures, successes and lessons learned in 2013. As I began preparing and planning for 2014, I reviewed my goals and made the necessary adjustments. Upon finalizing my goals, I felt pretty good…UNTIL…my conference call with Paul Martinelli, president of the John Maxwell Team.
On the first conference call of the New Year, Saturday, January 4, Paul addressed some of the issues we encounter when establishing goals. When Paul said, “we have a tendency to lower our goals to what we think we can achieve,” an alarm went off in my head. Immediately, I became aware of how I’ve been limiting my growth. Consciously, I believed that I was establishing big, audacious and “knee shaking” goals. However, I now realize that I was creating goals based on my current conditions, what I believed I could achieve. Let me ask you, “When was the last time you created a goal that seemed unattainable, impossible or unimaginable?” Can you imagine the level of transformation you would undergo as you strive to reach this type of goal? Hurry and read the rest of the post
“Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy solitude. It’s because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.” ~ Jodi Picoult
Upon reading this quote, I felt a feeling of uneasiness as I wrestled with the reality of these words. Immediately, I was bombarded with the following questions: “Rosalynd, is this true for you?” “Why did you assume this identity?” “Did you develop the identity of a loner out of fear?” “What did you fear?” From a place of awareness, my higher-self responded, “Yes, you chose to be a loner out of fear of rejection.” I never thought about it, until I read this quote recently.
As far back as I can remember, I suffered rejection from those closest to me. Consequently, there were several periods throughout my life where I felt lonely and/or alone. I remember most of my life, shrinking in front of people (in various ways) just to fit in and make others feel comfortable. Always at the risk of rejecting my true identity. No wonder, I suffered a major identity crisis during my 20s and 30s. For so many years, I felt like a fish out of water. It wasn’t until my 30s, that I realized that I was swimming with the wrong fish. Thankfully, I am now in a place where I have learned how to reframe my thoughts and feelings regarding rejection. I have come to learn that people don’t reject me because of who I am, but rather, who they are. Hence, my mantra in this season of my life is “Other people’s opinions of me is not my business.” More importantly, I have discovered who I am and why I am here. This has made all the difference in the world in how I live my life and what I entertain. Hurry and read the rest of the post
“Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.” ~ Marianne Williamson
Many of us have bought into the idea that we can only experience joy when something extraordinary happens. Is this really true? I believe joy can be found in the simplicity of life; ordinary moments.
As I reflect on my week, much of my joy has been derived from ordinary moments. In fact, some of these joyful moments are found in my daily routines. I am quite sure that you can find joy in some of your “routine” ordinary moments as well. Oftentimes, I believe these moments are missed because we’ve become so distracted with the busyness of life. We’re not stopping long enough to smell the roses. Instead, we’re stopping just long enough to identify the next task or the next fire to put out.
As I write this post, I am sitting in the dining room, watching Gabriella run around in the back yard. She is pushing the swing back and forth and dodging it to prevent from being hit…LOL! I experience great joy when I watch my daughter running around playing by herself. I love her independence, energy and forms of expression. There are so many children in this world that are sickly and are unable to run around in their backyard experiencing the wind blowing through their hair and the sun beaming down on their face. Lord, thank you; I am so grateful that my child is healthy and happy. Here are a few more ordinary moments I experienced this week that brought me great joy: Hurry and read the rest of the post